Dating someone while separated
After a year of this arrangement, you may file for divorce.
Once you are granted a divorce, you can legally begin dating.
If your husband can prove that you've committed adultery (and, remember, it's even adultery if you've already separated), you could be prevented from asking for spousal support. Would it upset them to have a new person around so quickly?
If so, it's not a bad idea to put it off for a little while longer.
You CAN see people, of course, but use your best judgment. Again, once you've signed a separation agreement, it's less risky–but it's still adultery (and therefore still a misdemeanor in Virginia) until you've got that Final Decree of Divorce with the judge's signature on it. I would say, however, that if you would be angry with your husband for having his new girlfriend over while the children are there, then it would probably be a good idea if you didn't do it either.
Before you've signed an agreement, it's a very bad idea. Until there is an order preventing you from doing something (like having unrelated overnight guests when the children are present), legally speaking you are allowed to do it. It's probably also not a bad idea to consider your children and where they are in the whole process.
" Some of these questions are not the most appropriate questions for lawyers to answer.
What choices you may make with respect to raising your children, for example, is definitely not our area of expertise.
And, the simple answer should always be: “Not until your divorce is final.” But, life is rarely simple.
Divorcing clients are often lonely and stressed out, and they may be longing to meet someone new, feel desirable again, and just have fun.
So, many clients decide that just one date can’t hurt.
In most divorces, there is a period after the marriage is over in the minds of the parties, but before the marriage is over in the eyes of the law.
This is a difficult period for both parties, because they're torn between two competing ideas: fidelity to the now-ended but not legally finished marriage, and equally strong desire to move on and start a new life.